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Are Christian Men to Soft?
As I look at the amount of Christian women that are single I asked myself is it because there is a real shortage of men and the answer is no. Women do often times outnumber men in the church, however; it is not such a large disparity that it should create the drones of single Christian women in their late 20’s to 40’s that we have today.
I have a different theory that I’m confident will not be popular with men, however; I think if there was a private focus group with women and they were asked to be honest, my hypothesis would prove correct.
A lot of men trying to live the Christian Lifestyle are TO SOFT. Yes I said it, too soft, too timid, and struggle in their identity and behavior. And look I’m not saying this as though I’m immune from the experience.
When I first made the transition from being a “fornicating fool” to living a Christian Lifestyle it was very difficult figuring out how to reprogram myself in a way that didn’t go from one extreme to the other.
What would make a difference with a lot of men would be if we were to truly study Christ and fill in some of the missing blanks. For instance, Christ was bold, humorous, and commanding, while being humble and holy. That is the balance that we as Christian men have to have. Women, Christian or not have a few characteristics if men they are looking for that stay consistent. Women want men that are leaders, that can make them laugh, that can be compassionate and stern at the same time. The Christian Walk shouldn’t make you lose or pull back on any of these characteristics. What ultimately ought to change when becoming a Christian male is the goal of your interaction with women and an increase in respect level.
Being a fornicating fool my objectives were clear, to get a woman to engage in physical activity with me. I would say what I needed to say, do what I needed to do, with that very singular focus in mind. I did it very well. Starting The Christian Walk, the objectives changed to being respectful of every woman, having interactions that are friendship based, and being able to discriminate and find that one woman that you can potentially spend the rest of your life with. Doing this without getting physical; I think too many Christian men think to themselves since it is a sin to get physical then I have to be completely stand offish. That what women are looking for men who are timid, that is not the case. You’ll find yourself being “the friend”, the nice guy that gets purely the “church hug” and watches as the woman he’s attracted to ends up with the next guy.
Instead, I encourage men to work on being more humorous, to even being slightly sarcastic, to shift focus from taking a woman out being a restaurant to instead making it about having them accompany you to the grocery store, or meeting them at star bucks. The most important thing with women is having good conversation; a woman is constantly testing and filtering in a way that we don’t even comprehend. It is much easier to break through those barriers and hurdles if you are in a conversational setting versus the traditional “date setting.”
Also, you can grab hands with confidence, hug, and even if you are IN PUBLIC kiss. I do not suggest kissing in a private place because that will lead to strong temptation.
Finally guys, if you show signs of your interest, but do not come across as “pressed.” This sends wonderful vibes to women; it communicates confidence in more of a way than anything else you would do.

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